I recently lost a very dear friend to brain cancer. I watched her health deteriorate, she maintained the strength to fight. Because of my own experience with my body letting me down, I initially was able to identify with her discouraging moments. After a while though, death approached and although I was not able to know what she was feeling, I was there to be with her. I promised to meet her where she was and be honest. I’ve been able to be resilient with my own physical challenges, but losing a loved one is taking me to new lows and reminding me I have to move forward. I found a helpful article that many of you might identify with as you face your low days and disappointments. When we feel depressed, it’s important to feel those feelings and be true to the down times. We also must try to be resilient.
What is resilience?
Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or even significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. It means “bouncing back” from difficult experiences.
Here is an interesting read on resilience from the American Psychological Association:
From The Road to Resilience: Factors in Resilience
A combination of factors contributes to resilience. Many studies show that the primary factor in resilience is having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family. Relationships that create love and trust, provide role models, and offer encouragement and reassurance help bolster a person’s resilience.
Several additional factors are associated with resilience, including:
- The capacity to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out
- A positive view of yourself and confidence in your strengths and abilities
- Skills in communication and problem solving
- The capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses
All of these are factors that people can develop in themselves.
Strategies For Building Resilience
Developing resilience is a personal journey. People do not all react the same to traumatic and stressful life events. An approach to building resilience that works for one person might not work for another. People use varying strategies.
Some variation may reflect cultural differences. A person’s culture might have an impact on how he or she communicates feelings and deals with adversity — for example, whether and how a person connects with significant others, including extended family members and community resources. With growing cultural diversity, the public has greater access to a number of different approaches to building resilience.
Some or many of the ways to build resilience in the following pages may be appropriate to consider in developing your personal strategy. Read full article here